How to deal with rampant misogyny??
I’m (F) living abroad now and so meeting lots of new people. I’ve had misogynistic social interactions twice in only 1 week. First with a pick-me woman and second with a man who completely ignored me and only talked to the other man in the group.
Pick-me woman: I’m in an all guy group, she arrives with her boyfriend. Immediately hates me. She’s staring at me with daggers and doesn’t engage with me. She pressures me to let her take my photo, then gets upset that I delete the ones I don’t like. She’s very entitled, but the main thing is she just hates me for being the other woman in the group. She makes fun of my voice when I excitedly said her bf and her were cute in the group photo we took. Wtf? I was being nice?!!! I dealt by completely ignoring her “jokes” and continuing to happily talk to my (guy) friends.
Misogynistic man: I initiated a conversation. I initiated a dinner with him, then his (male) classmate joins. I showed them the good stalls to eat at the night market. When a guy joined, this prick literally stops replying when I talk, won’t look at me for the whole hour we were out as a group, and only acknowledge and engages the other man. For an HOUR. Slowly the other guy who was ok at first becomes standoffish to me too as the evening progresses.
They purposely walk slow to act like I’m not leading them around, which I completely am because of course, I’m the only one who knows the area, it makes sense! I give up at the end and just walk 3 metres ahead of them. I run into a female friend and very eagerly said goodbye to them. Blocked him on social media.
Both these people are people I’ll never need to meet again so that’s good. But my internal feelings are still reeling at the memories of these interactions. They boil my blood and I can’t understand why some people are so stupid. Obviously men and women can be normal friends, but they make it into some power struggle in every minuscule thing, to the point no woman even likes them. Then I’m sure they’d blame me for disliking them, like the pick-me girl did by making fun of my voice (which I’ve been complimented on many times by other normal people when I read my poetry, so I know it’s not an odd voice).
Wtf. I have nothing to say but wtf. Urgh I just want to call them out, but I have before with others like them, and with this level of stupidity there’s no hope of help. They don’t even see me as a full human at this point. I hope they are extremely lonely, but I know there’s always gonna be more strange people like that who will make babies with these people lol and I just hate it!! Damn it all to hell!!! What are you supposed to even do!!!