I feel like some women hide behind their pregnancy to be mean/rude/crazy and give pregnancy a bad name

It’s my first time pregnant, but most of the couples we are friends with have had their 1st or 2nd children over the past 5 years. Every time one of the wives is going through pregnancy the guys always confide in my husband that it’s been super rough and their wives are screaming at them all the time and threatening divorce and being (in my opinion) emotionally abusive. As I wasn’t pregnant I always thought it was kind of extreme but I didn’t understand the impact of hormones, but some of these women would give me a “wink wink nudge nudge - sometimes I like to just get things off my chest and tell them it’s because I’m pregnant.”

How that I am pregnant, I do get the hormone thing but I am also aware to be aware of it and recognise when I’m being unreasonable or unfair and remove myself from a situation instead of unleashing on my partner.

All this to say is I feel like lots of women take advantage of the stereotype that pregnancy makes us crazy and we can’t be blamed for bags behaviour and it isn’t fair or right.