Question for men: Would you be okay if your children carry your wife’s surname as their middle name?

I am 20 weeks pregnant with first baby, with husband for 1 year, who I have known for 12 years now. He is very loving, caring, supportive and respects my individuality. We are on the same page on most matters with respect to the baby and parenting, but there is one matter that we just haven’t been able to resolve between us.

I really want the baby to carry my surname as their middle name, and my husband’s surname will obviously be the baby’s surname as is the convention. But my husband just freaks out and says no every time this comes up. He is like, the baby will anyways be obsessed with the mother and cry for mum all the time and that I will be the most important person in the baby’s life, so why not let the name be as is customary - either no middle name or father’s name as the middle name.

I just can’t seem to make sense of why would an educated husband in 21st century would be offended by the idea! Mothers go through so much to create a life..

All men, would you be okay if your wife wants to pass on her surname in the middle name of your children? Why / why not?

Posting this here because I am looking for thoughts from Indian men 🙏