Where to get nails done for someone w anxiety about it?

I'd like to get my nails professionally done sometime, and I've done it a couple times before in other cities but it always ended up hurting me. The cuticle trimming and whatever they put on there stung really bad, and I have anxiety about it hurting again. Is there anywhere you go where they're really gentle? Or could I ask for very minimal cuticle trimming and not be seen as weird or rude? I also have a fear of ruining my natural nails and I'm not sure which material to ask for that's the most gentle or easy to remove. I don't want a lot of length as I usually don't do anything to my nails and keep them short. I might just start with a simple color coat and no extensions/added length. Any thoughts?