How can I help him understand that he isn’t engaging enough?

Hi!

My boyfriend(23) and I(20F have been dating for two months now, but I often feel like he doesn’t put much effort into the relationship. For context, we met in person, but I had to leave the country, so now we’re long-distance.

I feel like I’m always the one initiating conversations. If I don’t text him first, we can go three to five days without talking. When we do call, I’m usually the one asking about him—at least, that’s how it feels. He hasn’t asked me to be his valentine yet, and he didn’t acknowledge our two-month anniversary. It’s not a big deal, but a simple “Happy two months” would have been nice.

We don’t send good morning or good night texts. I tried at first, but he didn’t really reciprocate. The only time he says good night is when we’re on a call and I’m about to sleep.

We haven’t said “I love you,” but we have told each other we like each other. When I asked him if he genuinely liked me, he just said, “You’re one of the chillest people I’ve ever met.” So I asked, “Other than me being chill or easy to be around, do you like me?” He responded, “My definition of ‘chill’ isn’t what you think. I like your character and personality, and that’s what makes you chill.” I don’t know… something about that answer feels a bit off to me.

There are a lot of little things like this that make me doubt. But at the same time, he does ask to call or watch shows together, and he was really excited when I suggested a package swap. He also talks about the future, saying things like, “When we move in together, can we get a cat?” So I’m really confused.

Help?