Men, time to leave muzz.
This is not a rant. It is genuine advice. I will however say it’s influenced by my direct experience and analysis of the app.
Men, It’s time to dignify yourself. I will preface by saying that I acknowledge the plethora of success stories achieved through such apps. Yes it might work for you. But these cases are a minority. Trust me. I tried Muzz a looong time ago. The developers have become much more greedy making every important feature a paid feature and faking things to get your money.
We all know the true nature of these apps. Let’s break it down:
- Majority of users are non-practicing. It’s true you can filter by practicing level and Islamic dress, but I’ve seen a million users who classify themselves as “very practicing” and “modest dress” only for them to have half naked photos.
Some of them post hijab photos and also non-hijab photos. What does that tell you exactly? Part time hijabi? Split personality? Aisha by day, Ariana by night? Smh.
Why is there even an option to state whether you smoke or drink? Isn’t this the reason we’re all on a Muslim marriage app?
Most, not all, but most people on there are unserious. Like they say, what comes easy goes easy. It’s baffling how many people set “within 2-4” years for the marriage timeline. My whole marriage lasted 3 years. These people want to chat for longer than my flipping marriage. As if these people are okay chatting to a non-mahram for years before marriage.
Abundance. There are way too many men simping over mediocre , unreligious women. From the women’s perspective, they get far too many matches because men play the number game, and don’t stick to set standards. Having access to so many profiles at the tips of your fingers devalues the people behind them. They get men showering them with compliments. This excessive attention and validation is involuntarily making women much more arrogant and selective. Even if they have nothing to offer.
You will see so many subpar profiles with barely any effort put into them. It’s enough for a girl to put her pictures up and get a million matches. This is creating a fake sense of self worth for these women. It’s harming THEM just as much as you. Any real man with dignity will not cave and drop their standards. We are seeking the mother of our future children after all.
- Confidence Crusher The sad truth is that most men under 6’ are getting filtered out. That is not how real life works. In the real world, you get to establish initial attraction and discover value in the potential at the natural healthy pace. You don’t right them off at the first glance because they don’t have blue eyes or are 5’10”. Even after matching with women genuinely interested in me, they are unresponsive and disingenuous. I’m humble, but not oblivious. I know I have good qualities both physical and intellectual. When I unmatched with the unserious ones, they end up almost always blocking me because their ego was bruised even after making dua for them.
Let’s go back to the real world. Build your confidence and skills. Make friends and connections. Volunteer. Join Islamic events. Socialize at your mosque. Ask around and leave word with every family member, distant or close. There is no shame in this. You are seeking halal. In this age, it is to be respected. Especially if you’re young. May Allah make the search easy for all my brothers and sisters.