How do you view your mom differently after becoming a mom yourself?
I feel like I have so much more respect for my mom after being a mom myself.
My mom got married at 18, had her first born at 19. Had to go through college while her mom and aunts basically raised her first born. Then had a stillborn for which she discovered was a girl which she so desperately wanted. Then got pregnant and delivered another son all while immigrating to another country where she knew no one. Went through major PPD have a young child, a newborn, in a new country with no friends. Then went into further depression when her dad died and her entire family blamed her for leaving him and him "dying of a broken heart". Then getting pregnant with me with major complications which lead her to being on permanent bed rest for almost the entire pregnancy.
Thing is - I knew all of this about my mom. She never ever talks about it or wears her trauma on her sleeve. She's the happiest most loving mother a girl could have. But I think of the struggles she went through and can't even beging to fathom how she got through all of it. It almost makes the struggles and issues I tell her seem trivial, even borderline laughable compared to what she had to endure. But she never says it.
She supports me and my brothers so fiercely and I'd be proud to be half the mom she is.