The abuse wasn't because of WHO you are, but what they can TAKE from you

Lots of painful revelations after surviving a narcissistic relationship, and NPD / psychopathic groomers / stalkers. One of those revelations is that it was never about me. I was not special. I was not such a sunflower wholesome person that they just HAD to have me, or saw that in me, etc. There are plenty of people like that whom abuse does not gravitate towards. I was chosen as a TARGET because I was easy to manipulate, easy to push, and easy to take from.

It's sad and pathetic and heartbreaking, but somehow better than thinking you are the puzzle piece to an abuser, you're not. You were just available and they were hungry.