Situationships?

Hi! So, I'm not sure if I just have terrible luck but so far every woman I've spoken to, we've hit it off well for months, then they either disappear or don't wanna take it further. This is maybe my third lesbian situationship, and it's driving me insane. I just want to know if this is a me issue, as in if I'm somehow attracting the wrong women or is this a common issue in the wlw community. I know situationships are an issue in general with dating, but I'd still like different perspectives/inputs if possible. Thank you!