Is This Considered Being Unequally Yoked What should I Do?

The other day, my girlfriend was really upset and said she felt like punching a hole in the wall because of things she’s heard Trump might do or wants to do. I asked her why, and she explained her frustration about policies like “America for whites only,” revoking citizenship for people born in the U.S. if their parents weren’t citizens, and wanting to buy Greenland or the Panama Canal. She feels these things are harmful and exclusionary.

I told her I had voted for Trump, which upset her more. The conversation then shifted to LGBTQ+ issues. She said her therapist told her that supporting LGBTQ+ people isn’t about going against the Bible—it’s about showing love and kindness. She also said she knows it’s sinful but believes God will forgive people because He understands their feelings.

I explained to her that my view is different. I told her that God doesn’t forgive sins when you knowingly commit them, assuming forgiveness will come. That’s not how it works. Forgiveness requires genuine repentance, which means turning away from sin, not continuing in it. I shared verses with her to explain my point.

I mentioned Genesis 1:27, where it says, “So God created mankind in His own image; in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.” I told her that God created Adam and Eve—not Adam and Steve or Jada and Eve—and He made them male and female, not confused about their gender or sexuality. Everywhere the Bible talks about marriage, it’s always between a male and a female. Even when Jesus mentions marriage, He’s affirming that it’s between a man and a woman.

She asked me, “What does this mean for us?” Normally, this would be the point where I’d walk away, but I told her I wasn’t going to make that decision—it was up to her. Later, after thinking it through, she told me, “I’ve come to a conclusion. I still want to be dating you.” I asked if she was sure, and she said, “Yes, because I’m in love with you, and I don’t see myself with anyone else.”

It’s hard for me because I love her, but at the same time, our views are very different. I left the decision up to her because, honestly, I didn’t want to walk away. What’s strange is that if she had said no, I wouldn’t have been upset. I love her a lot and don’t want to lose her, but at the same time, I wouldn’t have been mad if she said no. I don’t even know if that’s a bad thing or not.

Today, I asked her about her views on abortion. I wanted to understand where she stands on something else that’s important to me. She said it depends. She explained that if someone has tried hard to have a baby and wants to keep it, they should. But if it’s unplanned, it’s ultimately the woman’s choice because she’s carrying the child.

When I asked her if she supports abortion, she said, “Yes and no.” She explained that it depends on whether there’s a medical condition or other circumstances. I told her that believing it’s a woman’s choice means she does support abortion, even if she wouldn’t personally get one. I also asked her how she felt about the overturning of Roe v. Wade. She said she was mad at first because she believes abortion can sometimes be necessary if it gets in the way of education or your life in general.

These conversations are hard for me because I love her, but our views on big topics like this are so different. Normally, these differences would make me want to walk away, but I don’t want to lose her. I care about her deeply, and I don’t want to hurt her. At the same time, I don’t know how to navigate this because it’s a lot to take in.

I’m looking for advice. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where your beliefs and your partner’s beliefs were so different? How do you handle major differences in values while still trying to make the relationship work?