No, I’m not idolizing marriage. But I certainly am lonely!

I (22M) want to put this out there to see if anyone relates to this sentiment I have.

I lurk this sub quite a bit, and occasionally leave comments. I’m not really looking for a relationship right now since I’m not quite ready yet financially, but anticipate I will be soon.

I’ll often see people afraid they are making an idol of marriage, and proceed to basically self-flagellate in repentance. Guys, please be kind to yourselves.

If you are hungry, you will think about food until you eat. That’s not making an idol of food, you’re just being human. Similarly, if you are lonely, you are going to think about companionship and pursue it until it happens. That’s totally okay, and I don’t really see the problem.

Perhaps my view is skewed since I am a man and therefore the onus is likely going to be on me to go “find” someone, but I don’t feel like I’m making an idol of marriage by wanting it at all. I also don’t feel like when I’m ready to start looking, I’m not waiting for God’s timing by actively seeking a partner. I’ll cast my net, and when the person God has for me is also ready, I’ll find her.

Maybe someone’s perspective could show me if I’m missing something.