Have you given up on dating?

Mid 30s F and I’m incredibly disheartened about dating. I do want marriage and kids, but at this point it feels like it would truly be a miracle to have both happen for me (partially because I also strongly suspect I’m in perimenopause). I haven’t dated much since my breakup last summer, and at this point I’m not sure how to invest again when what I want feels so pressured and rigid. A part of me doesn’t want to completely give up, but it’s painful to feel like I’m slightly grasping at something that feels like utter fantasy at this point.

For anyone else in a similar situation, how are you handling dating? Are you still looking, or have you given up? And if you’ve “given up,” how do you navigate the grief over your life not looking how you hoped?

Any advice/input/stories welcome.