Am I just a prude?
TL;DR: Had an intensely loving romantic encounter with a guy, then saw his degradation and objectification of women on a large scale on his Facebook, and dropped him in spite of our experience, and in spite of his feelings he's been harboring of me for a long time. Am I wrong for this?
Sorry this is long. I wanted to give the full context.
I recently reconnected with an ex from 12 years ago. My intentions were platonic but things turned romantic very fast. He seemed so perfect. He said and did all the right things. He was so respectful and attentive and was practically worshiping me. He's harbored feelings for me this whole time, which he's made that known over the years when we've crossed paths. We slept together once, and I felt so safe with him in the moment (which isn't common for me with men). It was like we were on drugs. It was one of the most intense romantic experiences I've ever had. There was so much raw love energy moving between us as we made love and talked and cuddled after. But…
After this experience, I looked at his Facebook out of curiosity and it was atrocious. There were memes plastered all over it of various levels of degrading things towards women. For example, there was a video of a young woman who was doing gymnastics who accidentally landed on all fours with her butt sticking out, and there was a sexual caption with it. She did not consent to being sexualized. Another one was a picture of two young women's butt's, one was big, one wasn't, and it was comparing them and making a crack (pun not intended?) at the one with the little butt. One more was a cartoon picture of a woman with huge breast's and a hand groping them, and the caption was “When I heart your picture, this is what I'm doing.” I interpret that as imaginary assault, being that the women in the pictures aren't consenting to that. It seems so wrong to me. It was so triggering, and I dropped him immediately.
Now, what I'm getting hung up on is the fact that he is very well known and popular in town, with women and men. People are always fawning over him. He has most of these people added on facebook. It seems like no one sees this as wrong? Except for his past girlfriends who he never changed his behavior for. But I consider this to be so misogynistic. His clear objectification and degradation of women is so much that I stand against. This man is 34 years old and he's acting like a horny teenager who's brain isn't fully developed. Am I just a prude?? Am I wrong for dropping him over this, especially in spite of our intense feelings for each other? Did I make it into something bigger than it actually is? What in the hell is wrong with him? Or is it me?