AIO breakup up with my ‘boyfriend’ today

Okay, so let’s start from the beginning. I been seeing this guy since may so it’s been around 8-9 months. We’re together everyday we sleep together every night since we met we go on dates I’m around his 2 kids, I cook for him and them, I’ll babysit if he needs to run out, he’s been there for me in situations tht he can help. Anyways, since I met him in total, I gave him $4100. He presented to have all his stuff together when we met. Nice car paid off his own house takes great care of his kids, federal job. About 2 months in he writes me a paragraph saying his got himself in some shit and fucked his money up and asked if he could borrow $2500 from me (August) and that he would start paying me back $500 every other check until he pays it off. I was hesitant but I agreed.

Fast forward it is not January, I haven’t seen $1 back. And he’s now in another situation, where he hasn’t paid rent in 3-4 months for whatever reason? I’m still not sure why even tho I asked because he makes $4600 a month with $1500 rent. Anyways he tells me he was getting evicted and already did a hardship stay. He always tells me he’s been going to court and is supposed to be getting help from our state or whoever deals with that stuff and that they r paying a majority of his back rent for him. He tells me on Wednesday he is getting evicted and locked out on Friday. Anyways he gets a call from the state tht they sent a letter to the apartments and he is gonna be allowed to stay and not get locked out and he just needs to pay $1600 out of pocket. He comes to me and tell me he will never ask for anything again if I can just give him this money so he doesn’t get evicted. And me being dumb I gave it to him. He ends up totaling his car the same week so I been giving him rides to and from work and being available for him to use my car anytime he needs. It’s been taking a huge toll on me not having my daily routine where I can go home and decompress and just be in my own space. Also I been super stressed thinking about how I would possibly never see that money back and how I could do something so dumb.

So, that concludes the back story to where we get today. Like I said previously this has been a mentally draining time period for me and I been mentally exhausted and just tired all the time from it, and we only had sex one time this week. Today I wake up next to him and he doesn’t say I word to me all day and I’m asking him what’s wrong, and if he’s mad at me and he says he’s not, but I’m also not dumb and I know something’s wrong. I eventually get tired of the weird energy and leave around 3pm and send him a text making sure everything is ok. He calls me and tell me he’s rly upset he hasn’t been able to have sex with me and he feels like he’s “begging for pussy” and he said since I gave him money i think “ i can just not give him pussy when he wants it” which is not true and I never said those words. I explained I just been mentally drained this week and explained everything, I apologized and asked him if he was rly gonna hang this over my head, especially since this is not a pattern with me we have a great sex life. Anyways, he is very mad at me and brings up so many other things like the following:

“You see me being single dad and u offer me no help in my life, I don’t get home cooked meals, and I can’t even get pussy when I want it” - this is a complete lie so I flip my shit on him tht he would even have the balls to have these words come out his mouth. I was coking for him every week and making meals to last him thru the couple days he had his kids during the week!! Paying for the food by myself for him and his kids with no help from him or appreciation!

“I feel like u just watch me. You watch me do things around the house and u never offer me help with anything in my life”

• he doesn’t clean his house! And I’m not gonna help him parent his kids if that’s what he means?? I’m not sure and never on an answer on what he means by this when I asked for clarification.

So basically he’s just demeaning me in this whole conversation on how I’m not doing enough and I’m not good enough??? I’m completely over this I do so much for him and he doesn’t offer anything in my life but headache and dick ! And to top it all off he hasn’t even made me his girlfriend yet!!! (hopefully this was easy to understand I’m a horrible writer)