Video Games as a Husband?

Are there any normal adults in healthy marriages with good careers who play video games, or does playing games only bring you constant annoying scrutiny by your significant other? AITAH for having video games as a hobby? My wife thinks no one plays video games in a healthy relationship and is upset that she didn’t know I played games when we got married. It’s not something I hid, but just did in my own personal time while we were dating and not together.

I’m a 37 y/o (m) married ten years to my 35 y/o (w) wife who has always been annoyed that I play video games. I’ll be eligible to retire in a couple years from the military and always have provided for my family of four (two kids).

I seldom play when they are awake and avoid playing video games in front of the kids. She is worried they will want to play and get addicted. I have supported her in this, aiming to keep our oldest 9 y/o focused on studies, legos, Pokemon cards, and outdoor play.

I bought a Nintendo Switch without talking to my wife because in the past when I’ve asked her for anything related to games, she won’t entertain the idea for birthdays or Christmas. The cost of a Nintendo isn’t a problem. She just thinks games are bad for you, take away from family time, and the kids could get addicted.

When she saw the Switch, she got upset and left abruptly. She came back and I told her why I bought it without talking to her, because she wouldn’t ever support the idea and so I could have something to do while working overseas for the next couple months. The conversation escalated to an argument because she told me I am going to sell it. Then she said it can’t be in the house or she wouldn’t stay in the house. She tried to make some dumb argument, saying she would “have a boyfriend on the side” to which I responded “fuck you” and she slapped me.

I spend most of my time working, helping with household errands, or going out with family. When, on the weekends, I wake up earlier and play video games while the rest of the family is asleep until 9-10am, I don’t feel like I am taking anything away from family time. They all sleep longer than I do. She thinks this is her “compromising” by allowing me to play games while they are asleep late into the weekend mornings.

Rarely will the family go someplace without me, and we routinely go on small outings. Every weekend at least. Errands throughout the week.

Video games are my time of solitude to rest and relax by myself. I used to also like far more expensive hobbies like racing cars (HPDE & autocross), but gave up that lifestyle once family life set in. AITAH? Or is it reasonable to still have any sense of autonomy in a marriage and play video games?